We re-located last August to be nearer to my family. It’s something we’d talked about for such a long time and never actually got round to doing. There were always so many reasons not to move! I was seriously worried about shipping the kids away from their friends, particularly the older two. Little Man couldn’t give two hoots about where he was, so long as he has his trains and cars he’s a happy bunny! At 9 and 7 as they were at the time, I was really worried they’d struggle to be moved away from the friends they’d grown up with, particularly Little Miss as she had such a close bond with her bestie.
So why did we jump ship?
With all the concerns around the kids, I think we needed a kick up the backside to actually make the move. That kick up the backside arrived last April with a sudden and unexpected cancer diagnosis. We’d been away with my Mum and brother for a week in Devon. All had been great! On getting home though my Mum quickly became ill and we got the devastating blow. Initially we were told there was no cure, they’d give her chemo to see how she responded but basically that was it. We were all absolutely devastated. Fortunately since the she’s done amazingly and is now on the 5 year remission program.
The coming months were really hard. I was working 4 days part-time at the time and we lived an hour away. Mum had emergency surgery followed by months of chemotherapy and I needed to be there. It was my husband who suggested we finally make the decision to move, so we did. It was that simple. It all happened very quickly and in the summer holidays we upped and moved nearer to Mum.
With the very sudden move, the children didn’t really get to say goodbye to their friends. Little Miss and her bestie are still besties though. I’m close to her Mum, we meet up when we can and they chat on FaceTime regularly. It’s like they’ve never been apart, so lovely! She’s also made a small group of friends at her new school and seems happy and settled.
Big Man has struggled on and off but again he’s still in regular contact with his best mate. He’s got 2 new good friends and is enjoying his new school life.
Little Man would be quite happy if he never met another child in his life again ever! He DOES NOT want to share his toys and doesn’t understand why he can’t have everything wherever we go. Joking aside though he’s happy as Larry (whoever Larry is) and I’m super proud of him too.
For me it’s great being close to my Mum and Dad, but I no longer have the close friends I grew used to and I find that really sad. I don’t know if I’ll ever get that kind of friendship again and that’s something I’m learning to accept. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still in touch with my friends but it’s no longer just a case of texting and seeing if I can call in for a brew before the school run.
Anyway, enough waffling from me, generally life is good and we definitely made the right choice moving, I just wish we could have dragged our friends along with us.