To birthday party or not?

To birthday party or not?

Our beautiful middle child turned 8 years old today. It’s always a funny one with her, I’ve kind of considered her as an 8 year old for a few months now. I do this every year. I think it’s because she’s the youngest in her year so all of her friends turned 8 considerably earlier than she did. On top of this, although she’s the youngest she is actually the tallest in her year! She has a fairly sensible head on her shoulders too.

Birthdays are always such a special time with children. The anticipation about being another year older and the excitement in their eyes is always something I love to witness. But then at the same time it’s so bloody exhausting! Weeks of planning what presents I’m going to buy, whether there’s going to be a party or a day out etc, and then running around like a complete loon on the day itself…

The pros and cons of parties versus days out…

I’m guilty of always trying to convince my children that a day out as a family is so much more fun than having a party. I do sometimes feel torn between the two though. When my children get invited to other children’s parties, they always have a blast and I always feel as though we should return the favour. At the same time though, birthday parties come with a whole host of problems!

Firstly, there will always be some children that feel left out. This is inevitable! You can’t possibly invite every child in the school to your child’s party, no matter how generous you’re feeling. On the other hand though, there’s also the chance that your child will want to invite children they never really play with. And then there are the Mums that you’re friends with but your children don’t get on, do you invite those children? With the average party costing around £10 per head, these are costly decisions!

Then there’s where to hold the party and what kind of party to have. Last year, Little Miss had an Alice in Wonderland party at a local play centre. This was such an easy decision because at the time she was crazy about Alice in Wonderland, we booked it for 10 children and that was pretty much that, simple! But when it doesn’t fall into your lap in that way, it can be quite complicated! Even if you just hire a hall you’ve then got the consideration of what entertainment to hire, what to do for party bags, cake etc. The list is endless.

During the party is pretty stressful too!

A day out with the family is so much more enjoyable in my opinion. This year, we’d actually planned to have a party for Little Miss at home. I thought a garden party would be fab, we could do pink lemonade, hire a bouncy castle and paint the girls nails. Little Miss went for the idea initially but then she wanted face painting and balloon modelling and it all started to get a little bit out of hand. In the end she said she’d much rather have a day out at a nearby waterpark – thank fook for that! She did then also have a mini party tonight after school with just one friend, they had a blast.

Next on the list is Big Man who’ll be 11 in October, now I very much doubt he’ll want a party anyway, perhaps I can persuade him to just have a couple of mates round for pizza, sounds easy enough!!!



  1. Kayleigh Watkins
    July 11, 2017 / 12:39 pm

    Happy birthday to your daughter, hope she has a lovely day xx

  2. Victoria Prince
    July 28, 2017 / 7:31 pm

    Hope she had a lovely day 🙂 I had parties when I was young (probably up to about 8 or 9 years old – the classic party in the garden (or house – I’m a June baby so we were often lucky enough to be able to be outside!) with a few friends, pass the parcel, party tea..etc) and then after that I always used to have a combination of the two – I was allowed to invite two friends and we’d go on a day out.

  3. September 3, 2017 / 8:38 pm

    It’s always a tough call but parties can be soooo stressful! Dropping in from #bloglove.

  4. September 3, 2017 / 8:58 pm

    Hope she has a lovely day ?. Our daughter is 4 at her next birthday so I don’t think we’re going to be able to avoid a party which I’m dreading! So much easier when I was young and was quite happy with pass the parcel!

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